Do you find it hard to say no? Is it hard to ask for what you need? Have you even lost sight of what you really want and need? Have you ever had a chance to know?
Do you experience yourself becoming very attached very quickly, unable to let go?
Perhaps you feel invaded or overwhelmed by your partner or someone else’s demands and dependency on you.
Maybe you might be overwhelming to others. You want to connect but they keep a distance or increasingly withdraw from you.
Whether we realize it or not, we come to relationships with different ideas of how close to be, of how much contact feels good, right, necessary, appropriate, or feels like too much or too little. Some of us are very expressive and connective while others seem (or learn) to hold back, keeping everything inside and at a distance.
How we feel and how those around us experience us is greatly effected by how we manage our own boundaries and by how we respond to the boundaries of others. Problems arise when boundaries are too thick and/or too vague for the relationship. Boundaries are a defining aspect of ourselves and how we experience relationships and life.
Increased awareness, attention to, and practicing of boundaries is integral to what most people work on and find empowring in therapy.