People who are behaving abusively often feel the following:
Edgy, lots of irritability.
Disappointment and frustration with your partner.
Inadequacy. Nothing’s ever enough or done right. Your partner is never satisfied.
Pressure and demands to do more or to be different, to give up things that are important to you.
Disrespect and lack of consideration.
Rules, agreements, and plans get made or changed unannounced, without warning and without being asked or consulted.
Power struggles. Your partner wants to be in charge all of the time. Your partner wants it their way and that’s it.
You want to leave but can’t.
Your partner is driving you crazy, almost seems to ask for fights and even abuse.
You end up apologizing, being sorry, making promises, feeling ashamed.
You try to make things right but it always ends up the same.
Maybe this is what you saw growing up or is only rearing its head in this relationship.
Being unable to imagine a consistently satisfying intimate relationship can be demoralizing. However, helping people to envision and practice - to create different, less toxic, more loving relationships is what I do.
Read the writing on the wall, before there's too much water under the bridge, too much damage done, and before your partner is gone. Call me for help.