People who are behaving abusively often feel the following:
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- Edgy, lots of irritability.
- Mistrust.
- Disappointment and frustration with your partner.
- Inadequacy. Nothing’s ever enough or done right. Your partner is never satisfied.
- Pressure and demands to do more or to be different, to give up things that are important to you.
- Disrespect and lack of consideration.
- Rules, agreements, and plans get made or changed unannounced, without warning and without being asked or consulted.
- Power struggles. Your partner wants to be in charge all of the time. Your partner wants it their way and that’s it.
- You want to leave but can’t.
- Your partner is driving you crazy, almost seems to ask for fights and even abuse.
- You end up apologizing, being sorry, making promises, feeling ashamed.
- You try to make things right but it always ends up the same.
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Maybe this is what you saw growing up or is only rearing its head in this relationship.
Being unable to imagine a consistently satisfying intimate relationship can be demoralizing. However, helping people to envision and practice - to create different, less toxic, more loving relationships is what I do.
Read the writing on the wall, before there's too much water under the bridge, too much damage done, and before your partner is gone. Call me for help.
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